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My current legal bullshit has nothing to do with romance. It's about large remittances, tax exempt income and expired contracts incurring fines.  It's just that it's glaringly obvious to me that even this activity, as stressful as it is, is more enjoyable than romance.  No matter how bad things get in business, you always have control. In business, people can't just decide and randomly harm you. You can't be randomly put in jail. Even during my communist Czechoslovak childhood dealings with the secret police, they could at best threaten to lock you up in a mental hospital. But you had to actually psychologically break down for them to be able to do it. If you didn't, they were forced to stick to increasingly empty threats. There are always things to do. Chances are that when the situation looks hopeless you are probably just poorly informed or inarticulate, but then you can hire someone to do that for you.  Romance sucks. No matter what you do or don't do, p...

Do you remember Talkie Toaster from an early episode of Red Dwarf?  A home appliance with artificial intelligence that has a brutally single-minded focus on trying to grab the attention of anyone nearby - in any way, at any time - to offer toast.  When the person rejects the offer, Talkie Toaster offers a different kind of toasted pastry. If the person refuses all toasted bread, Talkie Toaster offers a pancake, and so on until the latest response gives leeway to ask for a toast again because it was not explicitly rejected that one last time.  Someone on Quora asked for advice about co-parenting with a woman who has borderline personality disorder of the mildly psychotic flair.  Someone responded, there is no co-parenting with these people. There is parallel parenting, at best. Avoid contact. When unavoidable, make it short and keep shifting the frame. When she speaks about the garden, shift frame to nature in general. When she speaks about the house, shift frame to t...

Here's an article from a psychologist to debunk the twin flame ezo trend that has been everywhere lately.  A twin flame is commonly spoken of as someone whom one quickly feels fast chemistry but may more realistically struggle with a sense of self, healthy boundaries, automatic trust, personal independence, personal power, internalizing core values, and understanding concepts of compatibility which often comes with life experience and/or being modeled and taught this as a child A woo-woo professional using woo-woo bullsh1t to prove that another woo-woo bullsh1t is indeed a woo-woo bullsh1t. What a fascinating modern age we live in. In the end the article circles to the usual therapy cliche... Relationship with self is a practice: every day we practice being in a relationship with ourselves. ...Where the relationships you get are the reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. Sure! Or the reflection of your skin color, ethnicity, class origin or neurotype. Healthy, wel...

I don't know if this is village hick empathy or Slavic empathy or autistic empathy, but there's such a thing where you can tell what people are actually like in their heart.  The problem is that people usually don't choose to act on that. It's inconvenient, uneducated and so on. Over time they lose contact with this core self and they finally become "well adjusted" and "mentally healthy": no feelings, no joy, but OTOH all business as usual, no surprises. All regularized and safe. It's like when people take a break from a relationship to figure stuff out. There's no such thing. They will never come back. They'll think about it and find that life is better without love, because it is. Frankly I don't know why people think they want love.  When you don't care about anyone, nobody can disappoint you, you're not risking anything. Besides, what's a feeling. We're not savages, no? Sex is worth jack when there are no emotions ...