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The problem with being an employee on the spectrum is the same as in romantic relationships

 

Being well-adjusted to our current society means relying on fully on words and formulations. Our society has graduated from the previous savage tribalism to running mostly on heuristics, and well-adjusted people do not develop attachment or a sense of value for you if you don't consistently participate in shallow conversational conventions. 

These conventions generally have no deeper meaning, but if you don't use them, you are the only person who isn't virtue signaling in an ocean of people who are virtue signaling, constantly and diligently. If you are a decent and capable person, this is the equivalent of having a good product but zero budget for marketing in a world where thousands of other businesses with possibly worse products have six figure budgets to spend on bombarding people with their brand name. People have limited attention spans, nobody actually cares, your product fails.

A friend sent me this article: Pesce, N. L. (2019, April 2). Most college grads with autism can’t find jobs. This group is fixing that. MarketWatch. https://www.marketwatch.com/amp/story/most-college-grads-with-autism-cant-find-jobs-this-group-is-fixing-that-2017-04-10-5881421

If you are an autist with a decent level of intelligence, you will eventually learn the script that gets you a job. Like, it's not that complicated. You can learn to flirt too. 

The problem is that once you've done that, your employee or your romantic partner will need you to use that script every time you interact with them. If you fail to do that, they will perceive it as a deep change in your personality from nice to evil. 

Why can't you just shut up and do the work? Because only p-does and schizophrenics do that, stupid. Actual work output does not signal anything, for some reason. Seeming capable of actual work output does. 

So to keep your job and not be resented by the entire team (and eventually getting morally harassed into quitting so that the employer does not have to fire you which can be expensive), you need to learn the social conventions and apply them every day. 

The thing is that spending 8 hours a day 5 days a week acting on a screenplay is exhausting. That's why I think that people who get helped by that organization are in for a rough awakening: I wanted a nice office job so badly and now that I have it it absolutely sucks ass!

Reddit's autism communities mostly agree that for people on the spectrum who have decent self-regulation and intelligence not too far below average, the path of self-employment is the best fit. I remember one guy who had the absolute dream setup: He'd sleep during the day and get up around 5 PM to be awake when his normie girlfriend came back from work. He'd spend time with her until some 10 PM when she went to sleep, and then he'd get online to talk to his business partner. They'd work until 4 AM, then relax playing some poker and then they'd go to sleep. 

Absolute paradise.

But you should know that according to many people's experience, having independent business on your CV is worse than having a 5 year maternal leave gap. Your business can fail for arbitrary reasons beyond your control and nobody wants to employ past business owners. Because once you taste what it is like not having to put up with anyone's random bullshit, it's real hard to go back to being an employee an unsung hero of capitalist work force. So consider wisely. 

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