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How people romanticize community and relationships

So, I live in a giant city, but I grew up rural. And I mean properly rural: No services, no mobile coverage, mountains, wild nature, tightly knit communities in tiny villages, shitters in the back yard instead of in the house, incest, mafia, human trafficking. All the traditions and values! There's a reason why village people are the corporate or academic fodder when they move to big cities, and why they so routinely get taken advantage of and abused. It's the mismatch between the community culture and the city culture. In a community, you've got a social penalty for mistreating someone in public. It's a community, the point is to maintain it as such, hence the penalty for being a dick in public. Here's where neolib hipsters make a mistake: Traditional communities are not based on mutual care, they are based on fear of penalty.  What this leads to is that while you're safe on the street, at work or in school, family members usually abuse each other. Family abuse...

What kind of thoughts i'm sorting here

 My friends tell me it's been nice to watch me change lately. I had money and did business for years but this time around, I actually started using said money. And got a bit of an attitude. And that has a reason. A while back I was one of the mods at a therapy subreddit, one of the more open ones where people usually came to complain about bad therapists. I have Aspergers, for better or worse, so I've got my fair share of shit therapy.  Every therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist or counselor ever chose the same hill to die on: I look and speak like a ditz, because of Aspergers, and I am an attractive woman, so they'd instantly order me to stop with my business bullshit (which is probably a lie anyway because look at me), find a man, get married and be happy ever after, and nothing would make them reconsider.  I will never get married. I will never even date and I will never have close intimate friends because I am immigrant, I can't randomly be a cunt spicy dynamic mo...